INTRODUCTION

Since we know that this art of winning men can be mastered, and since we are determined upon making ourselves experts in the art, the thing for us to do is to take a bird's-eye view of the problem before us and to determine in a general way our plan for attacking it.

 

BODY 

At first glance it would seem an easy matter to win a single man out of many millions, but a little thought will soon disclose that a very small proportion of unmarried men are really eligible for matrimony. For the purpose of analysis, let us set apart from the many millions of average unmarried men three hundred whom you have met, or whom you can meet if you try. In small communities, of course, one hundred might be a more probable figure; but, since the proportions would be approximately the same under our analysis, whether the number is one hundred or three hundred, we will confine our survey to the latter figure. [See 1st chart.]

Of these three hundred, about one hundred and fifty, we will say, are between the ages of twenty-one and thirty, one hundred between the ages of thirty and forty, and fifty between the ages of forty and fifty.

How Many Eligible Men-?

As the first group of men are just getting started in the world, at least eighty of them are not earning enough to consider marriage, ten are earning enough but have dependent parents or other prohibitive obligations, and ten are in poor health. Only fifty out of the hundred and fifty, therefore, are eligible for matrimony. Of these, as twenty are already securely engaged, only thirty are vulnerable to the designs of unattached women. In the second group, consisting of one hundred unmarried men between the ages or thirty and forty, there will perhaps be about thirty economically incompetent, ten with dependents and other obligations, and ten in poor health. Out of this hundred, therefore, you have fifty eligible men; but, on account of their advancing age, at least thirty of the fifty will already be engaged. This leaves only twenty for matrimonially inclined young women to pounce upon. In the third group, consisting of fifty unmarried men between the ages of forty and fifty, ten perhaps will be economically unfit, fifteen will be in poor health, and five handicapped by dependents or other insuperable obligations. As ten out of the remaining twenty will no doubt be engaged, only ten are left open to the wiles of determined women.

Out of the three hundred unmarried men, one hundred and eighty are unprepared for matrimony and sixty of the remainder are already engaged. This leaves, then, out of three hundred, just sixty men vulnerable to the strategy of matrimonially inclined young women. And those sixty, needless to say, are constantly in a state of siege.

The Prospects of Marriage.

When, on the other hand, we seek to find what proportion of unmarried women are really eligible for matrimony, we meet with quite a different result.

But, in order to be conservative, we will eliminate the same number of women on the basis of health as we did men-thirty-five.

But sixty of the men and sixty of the women are already engaged. In fact, therefore, there are two hundred and five women for only sixty men.

What Your Own Chances Are.

Let us imagine, for instance, that you are a girl of twenty-eight, neat-looking though not beautiful, with a fairly good disposition and with a brain clever enough to understand and practice the principles outlined in this work. In the first place, you will have the advantage of all your competitors over thirty years of age; that eliminates, say, about eighty of them. In the second place, you have the advantage of all your competitors with ugly or repulsive dispositions; that will eliminate about twenty more. In the third place, your `neat appearance will put out of the running many of the carelessly dowdy competitors-say about forty. In the fourth place, your cleverness certainly ought to give you the advantage of your grossly stupid and ignorant competitors-say about twenty. Altogether, therefore, you have, if you are the kind of girl described, the advantage over one hundred and sixty of the two hundred and five unmarried women. In short, you are one of the forty-five women most likely to win one of the sixty available men.

Forty-Five Women-Thirty Men

In calculating your own chances, however, you must remember that some of these sixty men are too young, too old, too disagreeable, or too ignorant-only about thirty being really acceptable to you and your forty-four competitors.

In fact, since the thirty men will not necessarily choose the prettiest girls among the forty-five, and since the men all have individual personal tastes that are as likely to apply to you as to any of the others, you have, with the exception of the ten or twelve remarkably beautiful girls, as good a chance of captivating one of these thirty men as any girl in the group. Rut you have an equally good chance of being left among the fifteen girls who are bound to be frozen out. Since you don't want to be counted among the fifteen unlucky girls, it is evident, inasmuch as you have no natural advantages over your forty-five competitors, that you must acquire an artificial advantage. What is the advantage that will do this for you? It is PREPAREDNESS.

How the Eligible List Is Increased.

But if you have this good a chance to win one of the thirty most eligible men out of three hundred, you have a hundred-fold better chance to win one of the men whom we have set aside as ineligible. Let us take another glance at the men whom we have eliminated because of insufficient earning capacity.

In the first group are at least forty and in the second group fifteen who, although not eligible now, will become so within two or three years, as their earning capacity increases. Add these fifty-five men to the thirty eligible men already discussed, and you will have eighty-five men on your eligible list. You, as already brought out, are among the leading forty-five women available for these men.

Where the Steadfast Worshiper May Be Found.

Personally, however, we would prefer one of the fifty-five men in the prospectively-eligible group.

These young men, moreover, haven't been spoiled, as the eligible men have been, by having a number of ambitious mothers constantly pursuing them. They are not overbearing and egotistical. They are more likely to be considerate, kind, true and noble. You are more likely to find among them, not merely a good provider, but also a companionable partner and a steadfast worshiper.

In short, if he is the admirable young man described, and enterprising and industrious to boot, it is well worth your while to suffer a little discomfort for a year or two in order to enjoy the years of prosperity and happiness that are bound to follow.

We have confined our analysis to a community of three hundred unmarried men and three hundred unmarried women. But, whether you analyze a community of six hundred, six thousand, or six million, the proportions will be substantially the same, and the clever girl will have the same chances.

CONCLUSION

THE GENERAL PLAN OF ATTACK

"And I," the business genius tells us, "attribute the greater part of my success to the fact that I had an article of merit to begin with. Without such an article to offer, I might indeed have attracted men's attention to my merchandise, I might even have aroused their interest; but I could never have brought them to desire and action. My carefully prepared advertising and my intensive salesmanship would have been defeated by the article itself. In the long run, I cannot create a desire for my article unless it is an article worth having, an article that men ought to want. We see then, the task is difficult. I therefore devote half of my energy toward getting articles to sell that confer a real benefit upon my customer. But even when I have such an article, I cannot afford to sit back and wait for men to come and ask for it. A great deal of study must be put upon the appearance of the product, the way in which it is wrapped or packed, so that the appearance alone will suggest its merit. For example, I sell, among other things, a high-grade perfume. If I packed that perfume in a soda bottle and a cheap pasteboard box, it might be the finest perfume on earth, but people wouldn't believe it worth having. I therefore pack that perfume in an exquisitely shaped and tinted cut glass bottle, with a satin-lined, imitation leather case. This suggests the dainty exquisiteness of the perfume itself. But a good product such as this, even when it looks as good as it really is, will not sell of itself. There is too much competition. In addition, therefore, to having a meritorious product appropriately presented, I resort to every trick and every art known to advertising and salesmanship to create a desire for it."

Why the Girl Must Be Worthy.

Look upon your brain, therefore, as your general, and upon your character as your army; and let your character be a loyal and obedient supporter of your general. The first part of our plan of attack, then, will be to make you a girl distinctly worth having, the kind of a girl a man should want to marry even without the enchantment of your art.

What Is the Man's Viewpoint.

You cannot, of course, depend upon merit alone; but, the greater the merit, the more certain of success is your art. Moreover, when you combine exceptional merit with your art, you have a better chance to win a man of exceptional merit. Just as in the case of the orator and the business man, therefore, at least half of your energy should be devoted to improving your worth from a man's viewpoint.

The Second Part of the Plan.

Turning back again to the business man, we find that, even when his product is a distinctly meritorious one, it has to be presented in such a way that its merit is self-evident. A similar situation holds true in the case of a meritorious girl; her worth, also, must be self-evident. Just as the exquisite perfume must be exquisitely presented; so must a gentle, dainty, lovable, and womanly woman have a gentle, lovable, and womanly manner and appearance. A lovely disposition must not be marred by a scowling face and an irritable manner; glorious health must not be disguised by stooping shoulders and a spiritless walk; a wholesome self-respect must not be contradicted by an attitude of servility; and a womanly woman must not be concealed under a mannish appearance and manner. The second part of our plan of attack, therefore, is to give you the appearance and the manner of a girl distinctly worth having from a man's viewpoint.

The Third Part of the Plan.

The third part of our plan of attack, then, is to learn and to practice the tactics and strategy, the arts and the methods, which have been found to be universally successful in winning men.

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HW Chapter Two

HW ASSIGNMENT due Wednesday, July15, 2009, midnight.

1. From your reading of this chapter, deduce why you think men are hard to win for the general population.

2. Out of 300 available men in a community, how many are financially stable? How many are not financially stable, yet available? How could a single gal increase her advantage?

3. BONUS Question for singles: Tabulate your own personal advantage using the tables. [This site doesn't accept the tables. If you cannot see them, email me and I will send them to you.]

4. Memorize the 3-part Plan of Attack.

5. Give one example from the world of business that uses all three parts. Explain.