INTRODUCTION

We have now completed our discussion of the five stages of winning a man. We have seen how attention is secured, how interest is aroused, how desire is created, how judgment is satisfied, and how action is inspired. To be sure, we have had space only for the great underlying principles, not for the thousand and one different applications of them. But, regardless of the manifold aspects which these principles can assume, the principles themselves are universal.

It remains only for you to apply these principles to your own society and your own circumstances. The mere reading of this work, of course, is not going to make you an expert at the application of the art of attracting men. Many people who understand thoroughly how the orator wins his audiences, cannot win audiences themselves; many people who know every aspect of the science of salesmanship cannot sell a silver dollar for fifty cents; many critics who are authorities on the novel, cannot write one themselves. Similarly with women. Knowledge, helpful as it is, cannot take the place of practical experience. It must be supplemented by intelligent and assiduous practice. As you will never find yourself in exactly the same circumstances as the young ladies described in this book, you must learn by practice how to apply the same principles to other circumstances.

It must be remembered, too, that the proper application of these principles requires a shrewd understanding of the character of the man involved. Though the main characteristics of man have been made clear, every man has, in addition, peculiar characteristics which can only be judged in the light of experience. To become an expert at the art of attracting men, therefore, a girl must practice the devices and stratagems discussed in this work upon as many men as possible. After observing the different reactions of different men to the same stimulus, she will acquire a subtler and more profound understanding of the man's human nature.

BODY

Our advice to you now, accordingly, is to practice, at every opportunity, the arts of attractive femininity described in this work. Take a section at a time, practice its tenets until you are thoroughly familiar with the practical application of them, then take another section and do likewise. When you meet with a situation, refer to this work for the general principles to be used in that situation, and then devise a method of applying these principles suitable to this particular man in these peculiar circumstances.

The principles of creating desire, satisfying judgment, and inspiring action, of course, cannot be practiced until after you have brought one or two men to the proper stage of the proceedings. You will have to set aside this part of the work, therefore, until then. But when the time does come to create desire, remove obstacles, or win the proposal, a reference to this part of our work may prevent many mistakes, suggest ideas for accomplishing your purpose, and refresh your memory with the principles involved. Too often girls attract attention and arouse interest, but then fail to carry the man through the other three stages. In these, more than anywhere else, they are likely to be led astray. Be careful, therefore, when these stages come, to proceed cautiously, to study again the chapters of this work dealing with them, and to devise a method of procedure that will at the same time be in accordance with the principles shown and adapted to the particular man with whom you have to deal.

CONCLUSION

Finally, we wish to warn you against an almost universal mistake--that what is attractive to a girl is attractive to men. Because the child-like, the tender, and the helplessly human aspect of womanhood does not appeal to you, do not assume that it doesn't appeal to men. Men do not look at women through a woman's eyes. They look at them through a man's eyes. Much as you are disinclined to believe it, what is attractive to them may seem very unattractive to you. As Thackeray put it, "To be despised by her sex is a very great compliment to a woman." The feminine type of woman, often despised by her own sex, is just the creature to make doting slaves of men.

When it comes to women, men are guided by other things than reason. They are, indeed, swayed by instincts, sentiments, and emotions rather than by intellect. As women do not experience these feelings of man, they fail to understand his actions. Intelligent women, indeed, make the universal mistake of expecting him to be guided by good judgment alone, and of endeavoring to appeal to that judgment. The darlings of Nature, on the other hand, instinctively appeal to his feelings rather than to his intellect. The latter invariably, therefore, are more successful than the former. The intelligent woman, accordingly, must learn a few of the tenderly feminine tricks of the darlings of Nature, and use them to appeal to the man's manhood. She must not forget that in this matter it
is not mind, but instinct and sentiment and emotion that are uppermost.

HW ASSIGNMENT 18

CHAPTER XVIII. General Conclusions.

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1.     List the five stages of winning a man.  Memorize.

2.     Explain: “Knowledge, helpful as it is, cannot take the place of practical experience.”

3.     How can a girl become an expert on the principles of these pamphlets?

4.     “Our advice to you _______, accordingly, is to ____________, at every _________________, the ______ of attractive ______________ described in this work.”

5.     Explain the warning against an almost universal mistake. Memorize.

6.     Explain:  “Intelligent women, indeed, make the universal mistake expecting him to be guided by good judgment alone, and of endeavoring to appeal to that judgment.”  Memorize.

7.     If you like, please write a testimonial for me about the impact these lessons had on you.  Thank you so much. It was a pleasure teaching this class!