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Lesson 10 Where and How to Meet Men

INTRODUCTION

Back in Chapter II, it will be remembered, we determined upon the three parts of our plan of attack. The first part was to make you a girl distinctly worth having, the kind of a girl a man should want to marry even without the enchantments of art, and the kind of girl who is all of this from the man’s point of view. The second part was to give you, after making you such a woman inwardly, the appearance and the manner which would show your qualifications outwardly. These two parts of our plan of attack have now been covered…Therefore, though you are by no means at the end of this progress, and though you must constantly practice and improve yourself as you go along, you are ready to begin the third and last part of our plan of attack. That was, as you will remember, to learn and to practice the tactics and the strategy, the arts and the methods, which have been found to be universally successful in winning men. This is the division of study upon which we are now entered. 

What does the average commercial institution do when it has an exceptionally good article to offer the public? It advertises…The manufacturer knows that even the best product in the world will not be in demand unless people hear about it, read about it, see it on display, and know where they can get it. 

In many respects you are just like that manufacturer, except that you have something a hundred times better to offer--yourself, a woman as good as any woman alive and a girl that any man would be lucky to have for his own. BUT IT DOESN'T MATTER IN THE LEAST HOW GOOD YOU ARE AND HOW WELL WORTH HAVING YOU ARE UNLESS THE MEN KNOW IT… You want them to notice you and meet you and learn about you until they can appreciate you at your full value. Many girls, of course, shrink from calling attention to themselves and in consequence never meet the men likely to be interested in them. Others are too bold, too obviously eager to get attention, and thereby cheapen themselves in men's eyes. Though the advertising campaign must be undertaken, therefore, and though you must leave no stone unturned to attract favorable attention to yourself, YOU MUST USE THE UTMOST TASTE AND DISCRIMINATION IN YOUR CHOICE OF METHODS. 

How to Increase Your Opportunities to Meet Men.

A woman cannot do as a commercial advertiser does--simply display her merits in the newspapers and magazines. She can only show herself in her home, in her social circle, and, if she is a business woman, in her business capacity. Men can know nothing about her, they cannot meet her, and she cannot meet them, except through her acquaintances and friends… She cannot even invite men to social affairs at her own home unless an acquaintance brings them or introduce them… Did you ever realize how utterly dependent you thus are upon your acquaintances and friends?

Since your acquaintances are to be of such importance in this campaign of yours, manifestly the first thing to do is to increase the number of them. Don't be too particular… The narrower your circle of acquaintance, the fewer men you are likely to meet, and the less likelihood of your meeting the right one; THE BROADER YOUR ACQUAINTANCESHIP, THE MORE MEN YOU ARE LIKELY TO MEET, AND THE MORE LIKELIHOOD OF YOUR MEETING THE ONE DESTINED FOR YOU.

BODY

If certain girls are exceptionally attractive to the men, endeavor to introduce yourself into such a circle instead of remaining in a circle of unattractive girls. A whole circle of attractive girls is much more inviting to men than a single attractive girl in an unattractive circle. Go out of your way, then, to make friends with attractive girls, invite them to your home and entertain them with assiduity… You will, moreover, find such a group of girls much more active socially, more given to parties, outings, etc., so that altogether, by moving in such a set, you will meet many times the number of men you would otherwise meet, and will meet them much more frequently.

Making Use of An Escort.

Attend every social affair you can, because at such places introductions are at wholesale instead of at retail. You can thus meet more men in one evening than you would otherwise meet in a month. And here let us give you a suggestion. Many a girl is too particular about the man who is to take her out. A certain man will ask her to this, that, or the other affair; but because she doesn't fancy him she will refuse, even though she has no expectation of other men asking her. This is a mistake. Just because you don't fancy a man is no reason why he can't be your escort, or be a social convenience until the next man comes along. Simply going out with him doesn't obligate you to accept him as a suitor. If the man takes pleasure in your company, that pleasure is its own reward, provided you do not lead him on with false hopes. Meantime you have an escort handy and do not have to avoid the affairs where such a convenience is necessary. INSTEAD OF SITTING AT HOME IN LONELINESS, YOU WILL BE OUT MEETING OTHER MEN, AND IN TIME YOU MAY MEET BETTER AND MORE DESIRABLE MEN TO TAKE OVER THE ESCORT'S PRIVILEGES. Even the humblest and most uninteresting man may have men acquaintances that are worth your meeting, and may take you to social affairs or upon outings where the chance meeting with the man destined for you will take place. The only way to attract attention to yourself is through other people, and you must use other people for this purpose every chance you get.

Another Way to Increase Your Social Activity.

There is perhaps nothing that will more quickly make you popular with men and women alike than being a good hostess.

Now, making people enjoy themselves requires a great deal of tact, work, study, and judgment on the part of the hostess. She must be very careful, for example, not to invite anyone who is likely to serve as a damper to the good spirits of the crowd. Have only those who will help to make everyone present enjoy themselves.

As a hostess it is your business to see that these choice spirits are present when you entertain, because they lift a great load off your shoulders.

As a hostess, a girl can avoid all appearance of seeking men out and thrusting her company upon them, because she is supposed to be interested only in entertaining her guests and providing them with interesting company, though at the same time she is able to take the initiative in getting acquainted with men and in getting on a better footing with those she already knows.

CONCLUSION

How to Make it Easy for the Right Man to Find You.

Remember, too, that except when you are playing the part of hostess, you are not going to increase your acquaintanceship by staying at home… In spite of your personal inclinations, you must make yourself a gadabout. Let go no opportunity to go to shows, fairs, exhibitions, games, sports of all kinds, parades, picnics, conventions, etc….The stay-at-home girl often makes the best wife --but how impossible it is for the right man to find her!

There are, of course, hundreds of other ways to increase your acquaintanceship… Your main method of getting acquainted with men is through other women. A dancing class, a gymnasium class, a night school, a circle or class of any kind of girls, gives you an opportunity to become acquainted with other girls, and through them with other men. There are so many ways of getting to know girls, and through them their brothers and cousins and friends, that the girl who has no acquaintanceship among the men has only herself to blame.

                                                    HW ASSIGNMENT 10 Where and How to Meet Men.

Due by midnight, Wednesday, September 9, 2009.

Please email me your answers to 1Femmy@gmail.com with your "name" and assignment number.      Thank you. 

1.     What should be the first thing a single woman should do to increase her opportunities to meet men?

2.     Why is it important to make friends with exceptionally attractive women?

3.     Fill in: “Attend every ________ ________ you can, because at such places introductions are at wholesale instead of at retail. You can thus meet more men in ______  _______  than you would otherwise meet in a _________.”

4.     List at least 3 reasons why it is a mistake to refuse an escort to a social event because you don’t fancy him. 

5.     What are the benefits to hosting a party.

6.     Fill-in: “Let go no opportunity to go to _____, ____, ________, _____, __________________, ________, ________, _____________, etc.”

7.     Explain this sentence: “Your main method of getting acquainted with men is through other women.”

8.   Name 1 (one) thing you will take upon yourself to do, from this chapter, between now and December!

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Comments (2)

SJF TL - Sep 4, 2009 5:18 PM

HW 10 completed by...

*S moselle

SJF TL - Sep 20, 2009 7:50 PM

* Sally Jane