DATING CHOICES :

Dating choices should take right choice to get good mate for you. Also you should select the right people to take your life in future.

Dating choices is giving you to idea, How to select the people for your whole life.

Dating choices is intimating the alertness of the human activities. You should get good partner in your life.

The Dating Patterns Analyzer evaluates your relationships and tells you what really makes you happy. You may be surprised at the results.

1. Think of people you have dated or had a relationship with.
2. Rate each person on the criteria listed (e.g warm, sociable, adventurous, etc.).

For each criterion: Type in a number from 0 to 9: 9 is high, meaning the person has a lot of that characteristic (very warm, very sociable, very adventurous);

0 is low, meaning the person has little of that characteristic (not very warm, sociable or adventurous).

Type in the age difference between you and your date.

For example, if your date is: 12 years younger than you, type in 12 and click the - box; 12 years older than you, type in 12 and click the + box. Be sure to fill in the "Overall Happiness" box for each person, otherwise the data can't be analyzed.

3. Click on "Analyze" at the very bottom of the form. The data will be analyzed and the results returned to you in a few seconds. You need to enter information about at least three dates, but more is better. Rate your dates on how much of each characteristic they have instead of on whether you like that characteristic.

For example, you would rate a very talkative person high in the "talks" category - even if you don't like the talking - and a very slender person low in the "weight" category - even if you like a slender person. Note: "height" refers to whether a person is short or tall; "weight" refers to whether a person is slim or heavy.

Rate your feelings in the "Overall happiness" box. There is no right or wrong here. For example, some people like to talk, others value silence; some people like to climb mountains, others prefer to watch; some people like to laugh, others are more serious. Just answer as honestly as you can.

Dating - An Issue of Personal Choice


First there was the passing notes, hand holding and name-calling of middle school. Then you survived your first heartbreak when your high school sweetheart decided it would be best to be “just friends.” Now swept away in college life, with an important aspect being dorm life, you hardly take the time to step back and ask yourself, “What am I doing here? Who’s bed did I just wake up in, and how the hell did I get here?!” Okay, so the second part may not be applicable to all students, but at the same time you cannot deny that it happens, likely more often than one would be comfortable thinking about. If you have not yet taken the time to ponder what it is you plan to do with the so-called “best four years of your life,” besides studying and eating dorm food, perhaps it is about time you did. What do you want to be accomplishing in these prime dating years? More importantly, is that what you are accomplishing?

In short, the purpose of this writing is to discuss the question: “What role should dating play in college students’ lives?” Initially one might think this is a frivolous subject. On the contrary, there is a quite a range of opinions on the subject with marriage incorporated into a number of them. Marriage is not a frivolous topic. Consequently its precursor, dating, also bears significance.

One might also think that college students, being in the midst of their own dating lives, would be able to define dating, be familiar with their intentions, and have a strong concept of where the decisions they make today will take them tomorrow, as they relate to dating. Surprisingly, of the students I spoke with here on the Colorado State University campus, while conducting an informal survey, none would have met that standard. All hesitated greatly when asked to simply “define dating.” Once done struggling through that answer, they were asked “In your opinion, what is the purpose of dating in college?” These students’ answers ranged from “getting laid!” to “discover more about yourself through others and to find the person you want to marry” to “I have no clue.” Clearly, the college masses are blissfully unaware of exactly what it is they are doing when they are in pursuit of the attractive sex. Let us address this problem.

First, what is dating? For purposes of this analysis, dating is defined as seeing a member of the attractive sex socially in a one-on-one setting. Other terms used within the following pages are “hooking up” and “courtship,” defined as non-committal sexual acts and non-serial exclusive dating with the intention of marriage, respectively. What I mean by “non-serial” dating is that when you choose to date someone, it is your every intention to marry them. While this may not work out, and thus cause you to enter this process again, each person you choose to date is sincerely meant to be your spouse. In this way, while you may court more than one person, that action is not serialized by your intention being to date many people. Now, with these terms clearly defined, we may delve into just what the various opinions are as to the purpose of dating.

I have defined five major approaches based on their common purpose, values and motivations, in addition to their general line of reasoning. These five groups, as I have titled them, are as follows: Casual Dating, Exclusive Dating, Courting, Cannot Date and Hooking up. Naturally, each of these groups is mainly composed of college students.

Casual dating is a concept that got its best reputation during the American 1950s. Casual daters value meeting new people, discovering and/or reinventing who you are as a person, and enjoying yourself. The scenario goes something like this: The hero of our story, Guy, meets a Girl, decides he would like to see her socially and asks her to join him at the diner for hamburgers and a shared milkshake. If this date goes well, they may see each other again. After about three dates there is a good chance Guy would be graced with a goodnight kiss. Granted, while this template has changed a bit in the past fifty years, the basic construct remains. Guy asks out a Girl, or vice versa, and they see each other socially in a one-on-one setting. These dates do not imply exclusivity or any concrete commitment at all. They are designed for our subjects to enjoy each other’s company. While social enjoyment is the driving force behind the Casual Dating approach, there are two other important aspects: meeting new people and discovering yourself. By the simple act of participating in these dates, each party naturally learns more about themselves through their interaction in addition to getting to know the other person. “Dating one-on-one gives you a chance to become comfortable with new people” (Baugher, 2002, p. 2) says Julie Baugher, Georgetown University’s premier relationship columnist.