What is Codependency?

These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self evaluation. They may be particularly helpful to newcomers as they begin to understand codependency and may aid those who have been in recovery a while to determine what traits still need attention and transformation.

Denial Patterns:

• I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
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  I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.
• I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others.

Low Self Esteem Patterns:

• I have difficulty making decisions.
• I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as nevergood enough.
• I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.
• I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
• I value other's approval of my thinking, feelings, and behaviors over my own.
• I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.

Compliance Patterns:

• I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or other's anger
• I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
• I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
• I value other's opinions and feelings more than my own and am often afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.
• I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.
• I accept sex when I want love.

Control Patterns:

• I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
• I attempt to convince others of what they should think and how they truly feel.
• I become resentful when others will not let me help them.
• I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.
• I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.
• I use sex to gain acceptance and approval
• I have to be needed in order to have a relationship with others.

Revised 2004-08-21 CoDep Patterns-1

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