"Dear Birthmother"

About Those Adoption Letters Soliciting For Babies


Supporting Natural Families and Opposed to Separating Family Members

Hospitals today try to keep mothers and babies together to prevent the harm that comes from separating them.

Pregnancy Help - Planned pregnancy or "unplanned" pregnancy, keeping your child and making it work.

Effects of Separating Mothers and Babies - Infant adoption separation - experts have always known the effects on moms and babies.

Adult Adoptees Views on Adoption - Not cute little babies any longer, adoptees grow up with views of their own.

Embryo Adoption Study Flawed - An article that refutes the idea that human beings are not harmed through embryo adoption/ embryo "donation".

Dear Birthmother - Is Adoption Worth the Grief? - What is it like for the woman who is used as if she were only the source of a baby for adoption?

Discrimination Against Single Parents - OriginsUSA webpage with lots of good articles on single parents and American adoption.

Adopting a Newborn Doll Exploits Women and Babies - Article on Newborn Nursery adoption dolls.

"Birthmother's Day"  - "Birthmother's Day" celebrates women as breeders and dishonors their motherhood.

Adopting Korean Babies - Korean adoptees views on discrimination against Korean women and babies.

Child of a "Surrogate" Mother   - "Son of a Surrogate" explains to a brainwashed society that the "traditional surrogate" is his real mom.

Infant Adoption - Is It Like Cloning? 

Like the "clone" that is used for the purpose of getting "spare" body parts for so-called "real" people,

less affluent families are being used for the purpose of getting "spare" family parts for so-called "real" families. 

It's sickening exploitation.

Infant Adoption and Reproductive Technologies are GROWTH Businesses in the United States of America.  

There is money to be made by adoption attorneys and businesses that broker 

  • Infant Adoption (a naive or pressured parent is forced or conned into surrendering her child)
  • Human Sperm "Donation" (a college student naively sells his child)
  • Human Egg "Donation" (a college student naively sells her child) 
  • "Traditional Surrogacy" (a naive woman making her own child for others to use gets "angel" status - and probably does not even comprehend that she is her child's mother)
  • Gestational Surrogacy ("womb-rental", a woman incubates an unrelated human embryo)
  • Human Embryo Adoption (parents naively "donate" their sons and daughters to other people)

Young men and women who are naive are being pressured by their parents or lured in by businesses that advertise to them telling them they will be "angels" for "donating" their son or daughter.  The true moms and dads are screened for drug use (and for "genetic defects") to ensure the buyer a healthy "product" - but the prospective baby buyers are not. 

People who are infertile, gay or "just don't want to be bothered" with a pregnancy may elect the options above.  Later they may discover that the adopted or "donated" child does not fill their intense desire to reproduce.  Or they may discover - too late - how the child cut off from all or half her family is affected by this unnatural situation.  It's a tragedy. 

Finding Healthy Babies for Adoption Customers 

To get customers the healthy newborn babies "of their dreams", the adoption industry is promoting "Infant Adoption Awareness Training" where they promote the following rediculous notions:

  • "A child needs two unrelated caregivers, not her real parents and family if her parents are single when she is born."
  • "A child needs old people caring for her, not her own mother or father, if they are young.
  • "A child needs wealth, not her own mother, father, grandparents and siblings."

These are just a few of the many rationalizations given for separating the true family members. 

Motives of Infant Adoption Promoters

What are the motives of those who promote infant adoption?  In addition to obtaining healthy newborn babies to sell to customers, some people have a goal to wipe out all families that are not of the "family-unit" family type.  Other people hope to promote a "system" which makes it possible for males to avoid responsibility for pregnancy prevention as well as for the children born to them. 

Infants Are Harmed By Separation From Mother and Family

It is not true that babies are "better off" without their mothers, fathers and other family members.   Hospitals today try to keep moms and babies together to prevent the harm that comes from separating them.

Dear Birthmother - You are not a "Dear Birthmother". 

Adoption promoters like to refer to a single mother-to-be as a "birthmother" as if she was just some baby-production equipment.  You are not a "birthmother" - you are the mother of your own son or daughter.  Do not be lured in by seemingly friendly people suggesting "open" adoption or giving you "birthmother gifts" and promises of pictures or letters instead of your child.  A baby feels most secure in her own mothers arms and can benefit greatly from her own mother's breast milk and the closeness she has with her mother.  Your child needs YOU, her mother. ACCEPT NO SUBSTITUTES.

Adoption From Foster Care - What Americans Need to Know

Infant adoption is a real money-maker for the adoption businesses.  But adoption from foster care also has a profit motive.  State governments and "professionals" get money to get kids into the "system" and then after they have used the kids for about 18 months they get even more money to get kids adopted.  Do ALL of those kids really need replacement "parents"?  Child "Protective" Services seems to prefer to "protect" the younger "adoptable" children.

Adoption and Safe Families Act - How the "Adoption and Safe Families" Act Tears One Family Apart

Adoption and Safe Families Act - Adoption Bonuses, The Money Behind the Madness.

Adoption - Have Things Changed?

Adoption promoters claim  "Things have changed".  What has changed?  The methods used to get babies for adoption customers are always changing but the separation of family members still hurts. 

"Dear Birthmother" - About Those Adoption Letters Soliciting For Babies